Nervous system regulation is all over the internet these days but what actually is it? And how does it work? Let's start with the basics: What is the Nervous System? The nervous system is a remarkable network in our bodymind that plays a pivotal role in movement, cognition, physiological processes, perception, and more. When we speak of nervous system regulation we are most often speaking about the autonomic nervous system and it's two branches, sympathetic, commonly called

I tried so many approaches to heal my sexual trauma and problems with intimacy and pleasure: EMDR, years of psychoanalysis, energy healing..

I’m going to share something personal: sex is hard for me.  While I love pleasure, orgasm, intimacy with my loving partner of eight years,

Perhaps a better word for intimacy is “closeness” including intellectual, spiritual, emotional, physical, and, yes, sexual closeness.

How somatic-based coaching resolves those chronic issues, for good. Somatic-based coaching is not talk therapy, nor is it yoga/meditation. The word "Somatic" comes from the Greek word Soma, which loosely means the body's wisdom or body consciousness. While it might seem like a buzzword these days, this modern therapeutic modality has ancient roots. The first step to understanding somatic-based coaching is learning, contrary to centuries of mind/body dualism, that the body an

The key somatic practice to regulate your nervous system so you can expand. With clients lately, we have been working on cultivating internal safety through nervous system regulation. Internal safety is, in my experience, the most critical part of our healing journey. When we feel internally safe (not externally because lions, diseases, racism, etc) we judge, criticize, react, blame and shame less. Feeling safe is the foundation of lasting growth. If you think about it, a lot

Recently, on my office floor (where I do all my best work ), I cried in celebration. There was no crisis. Everything was beautiful....

Try this celebratory way to create lasting habit change Have you considered that there could be a delightful way to create sustainable habit change and meet big goals without gross ideas of restriction, discipline, carrot/stick motivation, and willpower? I hadn't. Frankly, I was done with all mainstream habit change ideas - they smacked of patriarchal dogma. That is until my teacher introduced me to Celebration and Shine and the work of Stanford's BJ Fogg (an expert on behav