Often quiet, easily overlooked, and markedly undertreated, sexual shame is something many women navigate in darkness and alone. The fact is, sexual shame is common. It can stem from a range of experiences – both direct and indirect – and manifest in a variety of ways. At its core, however, is the firmly-held belief that our bodies aren’t safe spaces to inhabit, let alone enjoy. This dampens intimacy, constricts self-expression, and has the power to diminish the identities of

Nervous system regulation is all over the internet these days but what actually is it? And how does it work? Let's start with the basics: What is the Nervous System? The nervous system is a remarkable network in our bodymind that plays a pivotal role in movement, cognition, physiological processes, perception, and more. When we speak of nervous system regulation we are most often speaking about the autonomic nervous system and it's two branches, sympathetic, commonly called

How somatic-based coaching resolves those chronic issues, for good. Somatic-based coaching is not talk therapy, nor is it yoga/meditation. The word "Somatic" comes from the Greek word Soma, which loosely means the body's wisdom or body consciousness. While it might seem like a buzzword these days, this modern therapeutic modality has ancient roots. The first step to understanding somatic-based coaching is learning, contrary to centuries of mind/body dualism, that the body an

The key somatic practice to regulate your nervous system so you can expand. With clients lately, we have been working on cultivating internal safety through nervous system regulation. Internal safety is, in my experience, the most critical part of our healing journey. When we feel internally safe (not externally because lions, diseases, racism, etc) we judge, criticize, react, blame and shame less. Feeling safe is the foundation of lasting growth. If you think about it, a lot

In my teens and early twenties, I lived a life of restriction. Battling anorexia, my days consisted of obsessing over how little I ate...

From my decades of unraveling my trauma and working with others, I've come to a few realizations: Trauma, including sexual, is inherited...

Recently, on my office floor (where I do all my best work ), I cried in celebration. There was no crisis. Everything was beautiful....

How three life initiations led me to the path of the priestess A student recently asked me, " why did you do all the healing to get where you are now ?" I said, " I came into this world with heavy shit to burn. Even as a child, I was aware that this fucked up shit was not going to be my story. On some level, I've always known the priestess path was mine ." It's true. I didn't come here to settle for good enough, for 95% of my potential for joy. I didn't come here to maintain